Holding Hands...for 40 Years

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Our Wedding Verse, November 27, 1971

O magnify the LORD with me, And let us exalt His name together. Psalm 34:3

How starry-eyed and "in love" we were 40 years ago as we chose for our wedding song..

We've Only Just Begun

We've only just begun to live White lace and promises A kiss for luck and we're on our way (We've only begun)

Before the risin' sun, we fly So many roads to choose We'll start out walkin' and learn to run And yes, we've just begun

Sharing horizons that are new to us Watching the signs along the way Talkin' it over, just the two of us Workin' together day to day Together Together

And when the evening comes, we smile So much of life ahead We'll find a place where there's room to grow And yes, we've just begun

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We did find a place where there was room to grow...in each other's arms and in the Arms of our Father God.

But we didn't realize how much "dying" it would take to grow...and to live as one, did we?

...unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit. John 12:24

We didn't count on the stresses of everyday life being so...REAL:

making a living parenting changes of vocation job losses miscarriage my chronic mysterious health problems serious health crises in both of our beloved children aging of our mothers deaths of our fathers your heart attack...and the list goes on

We didn't realize how hard it would be to "coordinate" our very different personalities:

YOU:  introverted, quiet, analytical, observant, unemotional, thoughtful before acting...an only child of an only child mom ME:  extroverted, loud (at times), intuitive, emotional, initiating...oldest of 7 (and "the boss of the mob," as my mother says)

But according to a friend, we are the "poster children" of how the Lord's indwelling life can empower a couple, so opposite in every way, to live with each other with a measure of harmony....though not without "duking it out" at times. :)

John Jan Thanksgiving 2011
John Jan Thanksgiving 2011

So now, I say, we've only just begun...

to live a life together rooted in true love (better than just being "in love") and to experience the friendship and companionship that come from walking through the joys and sorrows of life together.

And so, my darling John,

Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be, the last of life, for which the first was made. Our times are in his hand who saith, 'A whole I planned, youth shows but half; Trust God: See all, nor be afraid!' Robert Browning

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One day, far away, you gently won my heart And one night, by candlelight, we made a vow to never part And then it seemed just like a dream When wide eyed, side by side We faced the future holding hands

Years fly, they hurry by, the simple times are gone Bills due, a kid or two, a week can feel eight days long By fading light, let's kiss goodnight And then we trace God's daily grace Thankful we're still holding hands

There's a hope that won't let go There's a truth we know God is holding us In His arms

Thoughts stray far away to all that lies ahead In frail days when strength fades Will we still mean all that we said? Our love's secure, so rest assured Come what may 'til that day

We'll walk forever holding hands By God's grace 'til that day We'll walk forever holding hands