Touching Each Other's Soul

Another anniversary and a sad realization. We haven’t been doing a very good job at “touching each other’s soul” for the past 47 years.

I wasn’t even going to write this year, because I’m tired and kind of blank. But then this came in my email this morning, and I knew my thought for the next year of our marriage. So I am thankful for some more time to be refined in this way.

Thank you, John Loyd, for loving this hyper-first born “Boss of the Mob” who can often overwhelm the situation with ideas, plans, even down to the “how to best carry it out.”

You are a patient man. As you have said, “Let’s take care of each other.”

And I respond, “YES, and let’s take care to touch each other’s soul.”

Amen, O God.

by Frederick Beuchner

HEAR YOUR WORDS. I see your face. I smell the rain in your hair, the coffee on your breath. I am inside me experiencing you as you are inside you experiencing me, but the you and the I themselves, those two insiders, don't entirely meet until something else happens.

We shake hands perhaps. We pat each other on the back. At parting or greeting, we may even go so far as to give each other a hug. And now it has happened. We discover each other to be three-dimensional, solid creatures of reality as well as dimensionless, airy creators of it. We have  an outside of flesh and bone as well as an inside where we live and move and have our being.

Through simply touching, more directly than in any other way, we can transmit to each other something of the power of the life we have inside us. It is no wonder that the laying on of hands has always been a traditional part of healing or that when Jesus was around, "all the crowd sought to touch him" (Luke 6:19). It is no wonder that just the touch of another human being at a dark time can be enough to save the day. 

-Originally published in Whistling in the Dark and later in Beyond Words


PS Our anniversary blog posts from the last six years reveal the uniqueness of God's grace in our years together … lots of ebb and flow— take a look HERE